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Open or Closed

Being open with another person can be frightening. You are so vulnerable, so exposed.

Check out this essay on openness by Dan Oestreich. In it, he describes openness as:

…an effort to touch, connect with and engage another person. It is the opposite of accusing, which is based on judging others and protecting oneself through separation.

By comparison, openness is the truthful sharing and ownership of personal experience in a way that is also a direct expression of care for the other individual — it is not about mincing words, but not about being scathing either.

Openness Reveals Beauty

Being open with another involves risks, especially if that has not been your inclination. But openness, in my experience, is reciprocal. If you are open with me, I am likely to (eventually) be open with you. And the converse is true, too. Closedness begets closedness.

If you want open, trusting relationships in your life. Be open and trusting. It’s a choice.

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